Quiet : The Power of Introverts in a World that Can't Stop

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  • 350 pages
  • Quiet : The Power of Introverts in a World that Can't Stop Talking
  • Susan Cain
  • Vietnamese
  • 06 July 2016

10 thoughts on “Quiet : The Power of Introverts in a World that Can't Stop Talking

  1. Emily May Emily May says:

    “There's zero correlation between being the best talker and having the best ideas” I read this book for the same reason most people read this book I am an introvert I have always been an introvert and it's a fundamental sometimes limiting part of who I am I've learned to deal with it better over the years learned to clasp my shaking hands together during presentations force myself to breathe normally and keep my voice steady even force myself to make the first move in social situations Unless you are also an introvert you probably won't understand the efforts I have to go to and the psychological strain this puts on me just to behave in a way that is considered socially acceptable and is desired by employersIt's actually caused me upset and distress for many reasons Firstly because I find it hard to cope in the many situations where bright outgoing personalities thrive Secondly because it's just considered a negative trait Look at magazines look at books like How to Win Friends and Influence People look at job applications asking for people persons I remember reading teen magazines in high school and seeing stupid articles about how to attract boys confident dazzling personalities are a necessity and feeling a very real blow to my self esteemBut I have accepted it as an unfortunate fact of reality for years the simple conclusion that being introverted is a bad thing Not a terrible thing and definitely not an impossible thing to cope with technology billionaires are often introverts after all but something limiting like a lower intelligence that I must constantly battle against to make it through this worldUntil I read this bookSusan Cain uses facts statistics and her own case studies to show that introverts are greatly successful and powerful not in spite of their introversion but because of it She compares different types of businesses and teamwork to show how extroverts and introverts each excel in different types of business environments For example extroverts often lead businesses better when there is little input from other team members; whereas introverts thrive in situations that rely on the input of a team because they are likely to listen to the other members and implement their ideasFrom Harvard Business School students to Ivy League professors to Rosa Parks Cain looks at the different types of influence introverts and extroverts have She does not place favour on one or the other but instead portrays a view of the world in which both have an extremely important part to play it just so happens that the extroverts tend to be louder about it It's an important engaging book that pulled along even a lover of fiction and fantasy like me And though comforting it is still a respectable study that achieves than just making introverts feel a little better about themselves The findings speak for themselves and not only serve to please a shy little weirdo like me but also make a lot of senseAn important read for introverts and extroverts alikeBlog | Facebook | Twitter | Instagram | Tumblr

  2. Hanne Hanne says:

    I always thought I was just weirdI can be alone in my car for a 1h drive and not want to have the radio or music on On sundays I often join the walking club for a long 25km walk but I prefer to do it alone and oh all the pity looks you get The idea of surprise parties makes me sick to my stomach and any event where a thousand people are together is possibly even worse I dislike small talk but I probably hate even how nervous I get when I have to do it I can feel sad for a bruised tomato no one wants to buy hey he tried his best too not his fault someone dropped him and while everyone else goes to the modern light apothecary across the street with the super nice people always happy to help I go to the dark and older one who never has clients how else will he survive?Turns out I'm not that weird I'm just a full blood introvert And yet I'm not what you think I'm not particularly shy I'm not the grey bird that never says a word and everyone forgets she's around I'm very opinionated and uite stubborn and when amongst friends I know well I can be the loudest person in the room But still I'm introvert After being with friends or colleagues I need recharging time I need to be alone I almost always think before I talk I enjoy getting to the bottom of things I enjoy detective work And I can go on and onWhile reading this book on occasion I was nodding so hard I thought my head might fall offThere were very little eye opening surprises in this book and even a few things I didn't agree with or I would have hoped for her to explore Even a few occasions I thought she was idealizing introverts This book was not perfect but somehow i feel that it was important for me to read itOverall it was uite liberating I'm not that weird About a third of us on this planet and on a website as Goodreads probably a LOT are or less like me not completely like me I'm still uniue I insistBut that might not be an issue Though some of you might recognize some of my examples above I've never met someone before that can feel bad for a bruised tomato So maybe i'm still little weird and my own uniue self Hoorah

  3. Stephanie *Extremely Stable Genius* Stephanie *Extremely Stable Genius* says:

    March 6th was Super Tuesday and I live in that Oh so much talked about battle ground state of Ohio I work the elections as a Ballot Judge which means I hand out the ballots to the voters and give them instructions I get to talk and talk for 13 hours straight sigh I try to make it entertaining for the voters myself and the others I work with because of its repetition but by 730 pm when the polls close I don’t think the language I was using was EnglishMy spiel went something like thisMe “Hi What ballot can I get for you today?”Voter “Uhwhat do you mean?”Me “Today we have Democratic Republican Libertarian or Green I have never given out the last two”Voter “What’s a Green party?”Me “I’m not sure but there is next to nothing on their ballot”Voter “I’m and independent code for embarrassed Republican can’t I have both a Democratic AND Republican ballot?”Me “No you must declare one and you will be that party until the next primary Ohio is a closed primary state”Voter “Uhthen give me a whispers a Democrat one”Me loudly “Democratic it is Take all this to a table and vote when you are done bring everything back to Rosemary in the red sweater by that machine Make sure to tear off the stub on the bottom of the ballotthe one that is marked “do not detach” when you come up to the machine If you don’t you will make Rosemary angry a very sweet and very old woman and you won’t like her when she’s angry She will cover you in I Voted stickers”This resulted in lots of chuckles but I did it 301 times I was drained I slept for 12 hours that night Twelve Grant it I got up at stupid O ‘clock to get to the polls by 6 am and maybe had 4 hours of sleep but I was just a shell my former self I am an introvert Introverts and extroverts are most easily determined by how their energy is drained and how it is refreshed Extroverts are drained when they have spent too much time alone and the opposite is true for introverts So for me my life force was goneIn the United States our culture is biased towards the extrovert We are about the loudness the out there the utter insanity if you will In school “poor Johnny is so uiet he needs to come out of his shell” I want to scream “Leave him alonehe’s FINE he likes his shell” School rooms now do this Pod thing where they pull four desks together and make these poor kids work as a team WTF? No way would have that “concept” worked for me and it’s not working for introverted kids“There’s no I in team” and that is a damn dirty shameI haven’t worked in an office setting in years so when I read in this book that office places are arranging offices areas with an open concept everybody face to face with no walls Workers going about their day shooting the shit getting ideasbrainstorming which doesn't work Who in the hell thought that one up? What a nightmare What if I only tolerate a certain co workernow I have to stare at his annoying face all day every day? How is anything ever accomplished? Companies are beginning to realize this mistake and are changing things up Google I think it was them designed their offices with food bathrooms and the like all in the center like a town center with offices around the edges It is designed for casual meetings where ideas everyone figured out in their uiet offices are shared and expandedIntroverts are a third to half of the population Many of these don’t even know they are introverted because of the push to be extroverted has made them fool themselves into thinking they were extrovertsAnother interesting thing I learned from this book is that extroverts are motivated by rewards They work toward things and take risks if need be to get to the goal of getting that reward Extroverts are soooo happy when they get the rewardIntroverts are motivated by fear So they do things cautiously careful not to mess things up in the process of getting to a goal That sounds like me It’s doesn't sound cool that I am afraid to F things up but I amThis book is interesting whether you are an I or an E Because if you’re not an introvert odds are you know and love oneAlso posted at Shelfinflicted

  4. Kelly Kelly says:

    In a twist that will surprise precisely no one this book spends a fair amount of time cheering for introverts What were the odds right? I assume if you're picking this book up you're on board with that to a certain extent and likely something of an introvert yourself This book is certainly for you or for the perplexed extrovert or pseudo extrovert that might be confused by your supposedly mysterious ways It's a sort of shield a blockade a set of reinforced walls that Cain feels it is necessary to throw up around introverts particularly American introverts to protect them from the Extrovered Ideal of American socialization The tone of the beginning of the book is thus rather defiant like Cain is screaming back at everyone she has ever felt pressured by to go to a happy hour or to a dinner party when she had much rather just read a book instead There's some of this kick back throughout the book with plenty of catharticsympatheticrather relatable war stories from introverts just tryin' to make it in an extrovert's world It is particularly meant to speak to introverts in the high flying business legal andor educational world where a premium is put on socializing teamwork constant connection and multitasking I am speaking here particularly of the rarefied worlds of Big Law Wall Street Finance and Ivy League academia It's a very career and work focused book with a surprisingly freuent focus on the bottom line about what traits introverts are likely to have and how these should be recognized at the top tables in all fields Her argument based on one scientific study after another throughout the chapters deployed like so much artillery is that introverts tend to think deeply about problems and persist for longer in trying to solve them Introverts are supposedly likely to care about the feelings of others to make excellent compromising leaders and to be excellent negotiators Cain's particular area of expertise based on their ability to seem soft and actually be tough at the same time She scorns the merely shy as extroverts in disguise who share extroverts' traits and want the spotlight but who are just too scared to get it she would never say this outright but it is clear that she believes they don't deserve the secret introvert password and is determined to keep out the riffraff She argues that the extroverts in powerful positions she has seen are likely to take unjustified risks to get hopped up on testosterone and the thrill of the chase to listen to the loudest person in the room and to walk all over introvertsShe readily admits the nuances in these sweeping generalizations She also admits the worth of extroverts and how introverts greatly enjoy and need their company both professionally and personally In addition she also talks about some legitimate times when introverts may devote time and energy to being extroverted if they care about something enough Free Trait Theory Finally and in the part that I most appreciated Cain talks a bit about the Situational theory of personality that is that people's personalities can be completely different in different situations times and around different people Therefore there are very few pure introverts or pure extroverts She also admits that the way that these generalized traits play out may look very different and may after all not be very predictive in any direct way Many extroverts may have excellent impulse control or introverts who care deeply about a cause may act freuently and completely out of character in order to fight for what they believe inHowever the space devoted to these arguments is much much smaller than the space devoted to proving endlessly how awesome introverts are and why the professional world should value them and stop trying to tell them that they have to be like extroverts because I'm okay and you're okay and it takes all kinds and a village to make the world go roundAnd honestly? This is a message that's happening to hit me at the right time when I'm involved in a workplace with a whole lot of extroverts surrounding me I did find it useful in my particular mindset where I am actively waging a struggle to define my own style in a new profession since introversion is a part of my identity I also thought that some of the studies she cited DO make a lot of sense and should be widely looked at like the ones that talk about why it's a good idea to ask people to provide feedback and brainstorm online rather than in big meetings or why introverts with closed door offices are productive or some of the advice to parents about how to cherish their introverted child I also think that it's nice to have someone sounding the alert that someone speaking uietly is not wrong by default turn on cable news for thirty seconds and you'll be reminded why that is importantAnd yet despite the evident time put into this book and despite my bias towards it I couldn't shake the feeling of cynical uestioning of what felt like a great deal of pop psychology and arguments made based on feelings anecdotes and newspaper clippings collected into a narrative It felt like a file you might keep to make yourself feel better and to express an important part of your identity rather than a research paper and I'm sure it was aiming at something closer to that crossed with an advice column There's such a lot of speculation in here and lots of scientific studies without citations or countervailing evidence brought into play For example it certainly didn't help that the minute after I read one of the fluffy scientific studies in here about how we Americans as a culture are drawn to people that display significantly traditionally dominant body language in pictures I saw it in an issue of Marie Claire in a box near the back of the magazine reconfigured to be about women being attracted to men and how you've gotta look aggressive and Manly to get us ladiezz don't you know? It just seems like a book written for a specific audience that you can rely on to make that leap to just know what you mean because they've got an emotional bank of misunderstood years and moments to draw on In short it appeals to an emotional truth built on hundreds of pages of stories and studies that may or may not add up to anything at all On the one hand it's maybe okay to create a space for a community of sorts to feel and process some of that on the other hand it will drag down the overall uality of that work into something closer to a melancholy history crossed with a dinner party argument Therefore despite its strengths and despite the personal enjoyment and help that I have taken from the book at this particular time I can't rate it as than an above average read An intellectualized comfort read for introverted professionals really if such a specialized category really exists I can't rate it higher when I feel like one good scholarly journal review would take the whole theory down especially when it feels like an argument for corporations to pay introverts a lot of the time Nonetheless a lot of interesting uestions asked a lot of self reflection inspired Recommended for my fellow introverts if you're at a place where you feel like something like I described above might be helpful to you at this time Otherwise I'd say you could skip it or just watch her TED talk instead

  5. Manny Manny says:

    Original review Dec 29 2016This book which I had had recommended to me by many friends both on Goodreads and in real life says plenty of useful and worthwhile things Using the words not uite in the sense common among academic psychologists Susan Cain distinguishes between extroverts whom she characterizes as loud thick skinned people who prioritise social interaction assertiveness and gregariousness and introverts uiet thin skinned people who prioritise sensitivity harmony and understanding She points out that a third to a half of all people are introverts; though many of them have learned how to masuerade successfully as extroverts since American society encourages extrovert behavior to the point where many introverts feel there is something wrong with them Why do they prefer to sit and read a book when they could be out making useful business contacts? Cain give reasons to believe that the difference between introversion and extroversion may well be related to underlying brain physiology and hence beyond the individual's control But importantly she argues that there is absolutely nothing wrong with being introverted Society needs sensitive risk shy introverts just as much as it needs brash risk tolerant extroverts In fact it may need them I find most of the above plausible though I don't know enough about neurophysiology to be able to say how solid those parts are What disuiets me most is that the book needed to be written in the first place It seems to me to say about modern American society than it does about the differences between introverts and extroverts As Cain says many societies she particularly singles out Asian societies do not place the same premium on extroverted behavior If you're an Asian teen it's regarded as normal to spend your time studying rather than partying The same is true though to a lesser extent of many European societies Cain's approach is gentle and indirect but she certainly succeeds in showing how grotesuely skewed the US has become When a member of an evangelical church says he is only interested in recruiting extroverted people and adds that he's sure Jesus was extroverted I can't help feeling that something has gone horribly wrong Even memorably and presciently the book was published in 2012 Cain asks at one point how America could have got the idea that the ideal personality type is that of a successful real estate salesmanHow indeed? Update May 31 2018A remarkable passage I just read in Gwendolyn Seidman's widely cited paper Self presentation and belonging on Facebook How personality influences social media use and motivations 2012Extraversion is related to several belongingness related constructs Extraverts have friends higher uality friendships Asendorpf Wilpers 1998 and satisfying romantic relationships than introverts White Hendrick Hendrick 2004 Thus it is unsurprising that extraversion is associated with greater Facebook use Gosling Augustine Vazire Holtzman Gaddis 2011; Wilson Fornasier White 2010 and friends Amichai Hamburger Vinitzky 2010; Moore McElroy 2012; Ryan Xenos 2011

  6. Emily (Books with Emily Fox) Emily (Books with Emily Fox) says:

    Very interesting non fiction about introvertsDefinitely could relate with a lot that was said and loved learning about the advantages of it and how to deal with being an introvert

  7. Sean Barrs Sean Barrs says:

    I am an introvert and PROUD I am sure this is not totally surprising considering my huge love of books and writing I am also sure many users if not most of us are introverts here on Goodreads And Susan Cain is one of us and she celebrates it This is a book about our strengths and our weaknesses; it is a book about realising that although we do not fit the ideal model for success we can still be dramatically successful given the right circumstances and a chance to shine We are the creative thinkers and the critics We are the over analysers We are those that prefer to retire to the inner workings of our own world when we’ve had enough of people and society We are those that would rather think than talk And that is our greatest weapon “There's zero correlation between being the best talker and having the best ideas” I am going to talk a little bit about me and my own experience I have done jobs that are characteristically suited to extroverts For many years I worked as a theatre front of house manager overseeing large teams in an extremely busy entertainment venue I also worked as a running shoe salesman in a top end sports shop offering great customer service and advice What made me effective in such roles was my ability to keep a level head and analyse the situations I was in and then make the best response after thinking things through I lead from the back My approach to management was always subtle but it worked My point is and Susan Cain’s point is we can do all the same things extroverts can do We will just do them a little bit differently She does not say that introverts are better people She does not say that the extrovert ideal is necessarily wrong What she advocates for is another side of the story another ideal and another type of person who can use what they have to their own advantage once they understand their worth “Don't think of introversion as something that needs to be cured” And this is so important to understand We need to embrace our introvert nature because it makes us uniue and in control of our thoughts and emotions I truly wish I understood this simple fact at a younger age because I spent many years miserable as a teen because my personality did not compute with what was considered ideal So this is an excellent book and I feel that it will be of immense use to many people not just introverts In order to succeed as a species we need to recognise – and celebrate – the simple fact that we are all uniuely different Some of the most brilliant of people have been introverts You can connect with me on social media via My Linktree

  8. Grumpus Grumpus says:

    What an affirmation While listening to this book I was constantly reminded of Al Franken’s Saturday Night Live character Stuart Smalley and his mantra “I’m good enough I’m smart enough and doggone it people like me” Well those who understand me do Full disclosure according to the Myers Briggs Personality Test I’m an ISFJThere were so many points of affirmation for me—things I intuitively knew Things I’ve tried to share with others mostly to no avail This book supplies all the data I need to support my case Unfortunately I don’t think the people who need to readlisten this book extroverts willThe book is not an “introverts are superior” diatribe but rather an explanation of how we can leverage personality types most effectively There is no right or best personality type but like life in general we need to understand each other for harmonious relationships Whether these relationships are family work or social applications of understanding are documented throughout the bookThere was one example in the book that hit particularly close to home Although SAT or I scores do not support it people who talk are perceived as leaders And which personality type talks ? Extroverts Now assume that both extroverts and introverts have an eual amount of good ideas Who is going to get their way ? Extroverts This could be dangerous because they’re going to get their way meaning that many of their bad ideas are also going to be implementedOh another thing I intuitively knew but now have support for is brainstorming sessions Studies show the larger the number of people involved in a session the less effective they are A 9 member group is less effective than a 6 member group which is less than effective than a 4 member group which is less effective than a 2 member group The suggestion is to conduct brainstorming sessions electronically Collect comments and then share them anonymously and build from there One of the reasons is that most introverts are better writers than speakersOther examples from the business world give tips for how both introverted and extroverted leaders can best work with their subordinates of each type Take advantage of each of their strengths Such as how studies show that introverts “inspect” and extroverts “react” Neither adjective should be taken as derogatory but instead as strengths Allow introverts time to examine and solve Studies show they are persistent trying to solve unsolvable problems The famous introvert Albert Einstein said “It is not that I’m so smart it’s just that I stay with problems longer” My heroA final word on the narration—fantastic If you have the opportunity to listen rather than read this book I would strongly recommend going with the audio format Kathe Mazur does a perfect narration in a “uiet” calm soothing voice Very appropriate “in a noisy world that can’t stop talking”

  9. Cristina Monica Cristina Monica says:

    This is the first time in my life I'm saying this I'm so proud to be an introvert

  10. Dan Schwent Dan Schwent says:

    uiet The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking is about being an introvert in today's societyConfession time I'm a tremendous introvert I know you're all thinking something along the lines of What? A guy who reads constantly and writes over a hundred book reviews a year is an introvert? Shocking but true I could easily go days without human contact At parties I'm the guy hanging out near the food or snooping through the host's books or medicine cabinet I could go into detail but since I have a feeling most Goodreaders are also introverts I'll skip itBasically the book is a flashing neon sign that says it's okay to be an introvert Susan Cain chronicles her own struggles as an introvert as well as showing how America went from being about character to about personality right around the time movies and TV started getting popular It covers introverts in all areas like corporate America and how introverts are treated in other societies There's a lengthy section on raising introvert kids which a lot of parents could use instead of shoving their kids into the shark infested extrovert watersHonestly I could have used this book as a teenager when people were constantly badgering me to go out Scientific discoveries and works of art are rarely made by people who are constantly talking Cain covers topics like being an introvert in the business world where people who talk the loudest get their way often than not something I see every day in cubelandActually the book gave me insight into the behavior of some of my family Until he retired my dad was crabbier than Red Foreman all the time I used to think he was just an angry asshole but now I think he was an introvert with nowhere to unwind Now that he's retired I see how much alike we are He's actually pretty friendly as long as the visits don't go too long Susan Cain's writing style is engaging I felt the repeated examples may have padded the book a bit While I felt validated by reading it sometimes it felt like a book a kid named Matthew who happened to be missing a finger wrote about how nine fingered Matthews are the best at everything I liked it but most of what Cain says seemed pretty obvious There are no mind blowing revelations for introverts within I do recommend extroverts read it however 35 out of 5 stars

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